It keeps turning.
It keeps changing.
That is what it means to be alive.
Change. Growth. Movement.
We can’t stop it. We can’f force it. But we can make a choice.
We can choose how we will react. We can choose how to respond.
The coming of falls such a stunning reminder of change. The end of summer brings its own kind of new beauty.
It is our human nature to fight change. To protect ourselves from it. But wouldn’t it be easier to roll with it? To weather the slings and arrows with grace and ease?
That is where self reflection comes in. Once we see how we are fighting, it gives us the tools to move forward. With grace. With ease.No Comments.
Someone I know and dearly love gave me a wakeup call once, years ago.
She was in her late 50’s, smart, educated, strong, admirable. I always looked up to her (I still do). But she once said something that changed my life forever.
It was a small part of a random conversation. Just a tiny bit of shared information. But it winded up informing my decisions from there on out.
“I’m still feeling like I am waiting for my life to begin.”
To hear that from a woman whom I thought had it all together in terms of what she had done with her life, slew me, shocked me, awakened me.
Do we want to keep waiting, or do we want our life? Now? Now is all we have and we waste it so easily. By worrying about the future. By feeling guilty about the past. By just not accepting the here and now.
When I coach clients, I hear so much of this. “If only”, “If I hadn’t”, “If xyz were different”…
But we are here and now. It is what we have got to work with, and its a pretty damn amazing thing to work with, really! When we get coached, it allows us to connect with the fullness of now. It allows us to get our perspective back, have choice in the matter, get enough clarity that we can see the ‘now’ and choose how we want to show up in it.
The things that stop us, cost us. They cost us this very moment.
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We want to put our heart and soul into everything.
We want to save the world.
We want to save every puppy and kitten on the street.
We want to feed every homeless person. Every starving child.
The planet needs saving. The animals need to be brought back from extinction. The water needs to be unpolluted.
And it goes on.
And we want put our heart into all of it.
But we can’t.
And we feel overwhelmed.
And, then, often, nothing gets done. We just post our frustrations on Facebook and move on. Hoping.
But it is not hopeless. The world is filled with hope. We can all do our part. There is the key ‘our part’. When we make a choice to minimize, to focus on just one thing, we bring our energy into a type of cohesiveness that is so much more powerful.
When we are scattered, when we are looking at all the shiny objects (positive or negative), we become diffused. Less effectual.
What would it be like to really make a change? Find where your heart lives, where your strength lives and become a powerful changemaker?
When you drill down to who you are, what your strengths are, what you need to move forward, it becomes easier, clearer. You flow. When you can look and see your true self reflected, when you know yourself, you can do som much more in this world.
I invite you to use the tool of Tarot Coaching to gain this clarity.
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Anxiety. It sucks. That’s all there is too it. When we get caught up in it, it can take over our world. Anxiety can affect every aspect of our lives.
The problem is, is that it is a vicious cycle. The more you have anxiety, the more your anxious brain creates reasons to be anxious.
This is where The Hanged Man comes in. “Let go, and let be” is a wonderful way to look at this card. When you are trussed up with so much that is beyond your control, relaxing and letting go will often allow you to see things in a different perspective. Just like hanging upside down shows you the world in a whole new context.
When things are overwhelming, you can either spiral up with all the overwhelm, or you can just let go. Let it be. Allow knowledge to come to you.
That being said, we all know that “letting go and letting be” is the absolute hardest thing in the world to do. But once we have knowledge, once we can tap into ‘why’, we can sit and process with much more ease.
When you can look at your anxious moments through the cards, that awareness will help give you a space to rest. And when your anxiety can rest, it can recede. And when it can recede, solutions, results and actions can come take its place.
And then you can move forward powerfully.
Then you can create your world.
Then it becomes awesome…
This is one of the ways we can work together with the Reflective Tarot Coaching process to create solutions, so you can move past whatever is stopping you and move forward to an amazing life.
If you are ready, let’s book a session together!
I took a walk in the darkness last night.
There was a light midway up the black night of mountain.
A new light. Amber. Homey. Warm.
I had never seen it before, and thought, “that is where I would like to live.” Slowly, as I kept walking, the light slowly, slowly disappeared into nothingness. I could see no place on the mountain. It was dark. Black.
It was a momentary gift. The Hermit stepped out of his cave of reflection to shine a light for me. Maybe an invitation to go in.
Go in to the cave. Be quiet in the light of a single lamp.
The only way we are going to hear ourselves is if we listen.
The only way we are going to listen is if we are not distracted.
The only way we are not going to be distracted is if we go in to our cave.
Listen in our dark. Listen in our silence. Listen to what is deep and hidden.
There is our voice.
In the darkness. In the cave of the mountain.
Our voice is that beautiful amber light. It will light up the worlds darkness. It will be a beacon.
But we need to hear it first.
That’s what The Hermit tells us…
(Hermit card again from the amazing Wild Unknown Tarot Deck)No Comments.
It’s a new year! New growth. New opportunities. New possibilities.
I choose a card for the new year. Consciously. I wanted to be conscious in my choice as I want you to remember that whatever happens, whatever shows up in your world, you still have choice. You still have your own power in how you want to see, to be, in the world. And, by taking on choice, you create your world. You create the world.
We are that powerful. As long as we remember it.
And so I choose the Ten of Cups. Specifically from The Wild Unknown Deck.
It is simple. And in its simplicity it all comes together. Coming together is what this year is about. If we all gather together, if we all create change, both within ourselves and without, that is where the love is. That is where the joy is. That is where the happiness is.
That is where the strength truly resides.
This is what I wish for us to take on this year.
It is time for us to make it all come together.
I believe you know it all.
Well, I believe you have the ability to know it all. What is best for you, what you need, what you desire, what you want to bring to the world.
It is all in there, somewhere. Maybe on the surface. Maybe hidden.
When you shine your own light on your situation is when you will find what you need. That is the wonderful thing about tarot coaching. The cards come up as they do, but, really, that means nothing. What is important is what YOU see in them.
Look at the cards above. What stands out? What makes you excited? What makes you turn away? For each and every one of us, these will show up differently. Tarot uses the archetypes of our universal, human journey, but, while we are all on that path, it is going to be different for all of us. We are all special snowflakes and exactly the same at the very same time.
A tarot coach is just your guide. We are not here to tell you what to do. We are not here to give you advice. We are here to reflect your own journey back at you. We trust you to connect the dots and do the work. Even if it doesn’t seem like it, even if it is buried under layers and layers of ‘stuff’, you are the expert in your own life.
We are just here to help peel it back so you can move forward!No Comments.
When I was four. I killed my sister’s dog. She was tiny. I made her go down some stairs that she couldn’t manage. She fell and died.
I was four. I think. Somewhere around there. But that doesn’t matter. I killed a dog. It became who I was. The guilt, shame, loss, all became my identity. I have no memory of what my family did. I don’t remember how I reacted. All I knew is I was someone who killed a dog. And that person is bad. And so I was bad.
We all have moments in our childhood that define us. We may not even have a memory of them. And, logically, you think, ‘well, it just happened once, why is it so important?’
Yes, a defining event may have happened only once. But we forget that we add 10, 20, 30, 40 years of reinforcement to that event. It’s not direct. It’s not on purpose. It is not something we are even aware of. But it changes our point of view. The perspective that all other acts are seen from. The filter on our lens has names like: bad, selfish, undeserving, unworthy. And that becomes from where we act for the rest of our lives if we don’t catch it. If we don’t consciously change that perspective.
As a child, unless you have a fabulous other human next to you to help you process an event, you just don’t have the ability to do it for yourself. Therefore events stay unprocessed. They stay as a definition of our identity.
As adults we get to change that. That change can show up in many forms: therapy, meditation, a profound book, yes, tarot coaching , a conversation with a friend. (Landmark is fabulous for this, btw)
When I was younger, I found the idea of those memories defining us ridiculous. Only when I started to see how everything got changed, how everything was compounded by future action, did I start to get it. I got how I made an event mean something about me, then I carried that definition for 40 years. It’s that important. And letting go is even more important.
It’s work that has to be done. It is too difficult to live your life from the standpoint of undeserving, unworthy, etc. For joy and abundance to show up, truly, the best way to get there is change your lens filter, change your viewpoint, turn around and move forward from a place of deserving and worthiness.
(Yes, this is the second or third time I have written about this. It is that important for me to remember and stay present to…)
I fed a bee today.
It was on the ground, moving slowly. I remember reading about giving bees an emergency concoction of sugar and water, so they can nourish themselves.
We have no sugar, but we had grape jelly. I added some onto a spoon, placed it just under the bees mouth, and he reached over to eat. I held the spoon as gently as I could, trying not to move it. He kept on eating. Or was it drinking? I am not sure, but he kept at it.
After a few moments, I picked him and the spoon up and placed it outside in a shady area. The bee proceeded to groom himself and clean up after his lunch. Have you ever seen a bee groom? It’s like watching a tiny kitten. Darling.
Each bee needs to be honored. We must value each and every part of this planet. It can seem so very overwhelming, but each step, each choice, can take us in the right direction. Everything is precious. We need to take care of it.
The blessing is that when we take care of something as small as a tiny, tired bee, we are taking care of ourselves as well. We are helping the world. We are in the act of giving.
We often don’t do the right thing. We try. We want to. But desires, fear of scarcity, overwhelm, hurt, so many feelings, make it hard to make that choice. But every single time that we make that choice. To help, to better, to save, to contribute, we will feel better. Whenever you act from a place of fearless love, it counteracts the fear, it gives us strength, and it gives us hope.
Moving away from acting from fear to acting from love will always, always change how we feel.
And it will be for the better…No Comments.
Rest makes whole.
We cannot move forward if we are not whole.
And yet, we try.
Over and over again.
Push, force, coerce. Just a little bit more energy. Just a little bit more effort. Caffeine, sugar. Have to. Need to.
For a while.
Until you break.
Rest. Recover. Sleep. Be.
These all have a purpose. To make us whole again. Yet we don’t seem to believe it or allow it. Or trust it. Science backs it up. All of nature backs it up. So what is our problem?
Your days will fill with health. Energy.
Things will happen. Your will be more productive. You will get more done. Easily, unforced, without coercion.
And you will win the battle.