Tarot and life coaching? Some people give me funny looks when I tell them what I do. They can’t quite put the two together, and look at me in puzzlement.
I would like to share with you how tarot and coaching is an amazing combination.
As we deal with life, work, family, exercise, and so on, there is one thing that I see so often getting neglected: Your true creative self. The part of you that is playful, joyous, free. Your actual soul, heart center, true nature.
Adding tarot into coaching is simply tapping in to your creative self. The work becomes playful. You find your answers to how to achieve your goals through your own creative nature.
When is the last time you looked at a picture and saw yourself? When is the last time you created your own story? Or even just saw your own story through the drama and distractions of life. When did you last remember yourself? Your true nature?
When you work with a Reflective Tarot Coach, we go through your cards together. You get to actually look at your own story through the images of the cards. And, even better, you get to create your own story moving forward! Really, this is your own life, there is no reason why you should not get to design it. Its all we have. Let’s make the most of it.
When you tap into the creative part of yourself, that colorful place where you get to draw outside the lines, that is where your freedom lies. Away from the ‘shoulds’, the ‘mustn’ts’, the ‘have tos’. There are ALWAYS other options, other ways of being, other choices. When you engage in play those new ways of being, of joy, will show up. Play can be something that is sorely lacking in us as adults. We forget the joy and magic of it. We created our identities as children when we were at play. Now is the time to find that place again.
Answers show up because when we use stories, when we play, when we color, we use different brain muscles. And these muscles will engage in new ways. And these new ways will find amazing paths through the forest. To our true natures. Our true desires.
Life coaching gets you the life results you want: new job, new business, more time, less clutter, better relationships, new relationships, etc. Adding Tarot lets you tap into your heart to really know the depth and true nature of those desires. And that makes creating your life so much more powerful.
Let’s see what life we can create for you…Vaike.com
Doing the right thing for ourselves. Sometimes it is hard to remember. Sometimes it is hard to figure out. We get lost and we forget our path. The path we know we should be on, we belong on, we want to be on. It is so easy to get lost in the woods with so many trees of distraction.
Here are 10 things we can learn from tarot to help guide us on our path to awesomeness…
1. Page of Wands. What do you dream of? What is your ideal? What would bring you joy? These are questions that we need to ask ourselves. When we get caught up in the daily grind of life, we tend to put these on the back burner. Bring them forth again. Start to dream. Start to question. Start to learn. Go back to the beginning and look at this very moment as an invitation to bring your dreams into your life. Take a minute. Answer the above questions without boundaries. Freely. Write down what comes up for you. Put is somewhere that will remind you to remember. To dream.
2. Five of Cups. Regrets. Loss. We all have them. It is part of life. But when we focus on them at the cost of neglecting and appreciating what wo DO have, we are doing ourselves a disservice. What would it take to turn you around? Stand up and look in front of you. What do you see? Now turn around? What do you see? You are in the same time and place but the view is different. All it took was turning your viewpoint around. Name a regret. Or two. Now turn around and name something you are grateful for. And a second thing. And a third. Fill that list. Find gratitude. How does the view look now?
3. Queen of Cups. Acknowledging your feelings. They are just feelings. We honor them, but we also know they pass. This knowledge can get you through your challenges. The Queen of Cups in you is mature with her feelings. She can be with them and not be run by them. You are that Queen.
4. Six of Wands. You have victories. Plenty of them. Stop and absorb them. You deserve it. What are your victories? How have you celebrated them? What is a victory you can celebrate right now? And how are you going to do that? What is a reward you can honor yourself with right in this moment? Go do it!
5. Ace of Swords. Now that you have celebrated yourself, your awesomeness, regroup. Get back to thinking about your dreams, your values. What is at your core self that you truly believe in? What can you cut away with this sword? What no longer fits in your life?
6. Eight of Pentacles. Moving forward. To your dreams. To who you want to be. Baby steps and focus. Keep on keeping on. Be conscious of where you need to put your energy. What will move you forward? What is a baby step you can take towards your goal?
7. Ten of Swords (my card!). What can you be done with? What can you let go of? What heavy weight is holding you down? If you can’t let go right now, can you just give it acceptance without judgement? Can you focus on the sunrise? How will you do that?
8. Eight of Swords. Afraid of the unknown. Afraid of a misstep. Afraid of making the wrong decision. How has fear been holding you back? What is it costing you? What else is it costing you? What would it be like to be fearless? Try it on. Play with it. Fantasize.
9. Three of Cups. Friends. Love. Support. As you move towards your life, towards your dreams, who can support you? Where can you find an ally? Who will rally around you and root for you? Those are who to bring in close.
10. Ten of Pentacles. The end goal. The big picture. This card shows the fruits of one’s labors, the result of the personal foundation you are creating now. This card shows family, community, security. That may or may not be what your desires are. What do you want your success to be? What is your personal end result? Go back to your dreams, your desires. How can you make it a solid vision? How do you imagine yourself in it? Take this vision and keep it with you. Wear it like a cloak, a mantle. Watch as the world changes around you and aligns…
And, of course to take this deeper for profound change, please book a session.
Where is your power? Who has your power? Why do they have your power? Why did you give it to them? What would it be like to take that power back? Connect to your bad-ass self? Walk taller. Walk fearlessly. Walk knowing your awesome self.
We, especially women, so easily give up our power. For so many different reasons. So much of it goes back to survival and fear. We learned how to survive as children. It may have been by making ourselves small. It may have been by making ourselves larger than we actually felt. Defenses. Defenses take our power. They show up in so many different ways, but they always come back to how we knew how to survive.
Now, as adults, it has become habit. Our go to way of being. We don’t even realize that we have given up our power until we feel sad, scared, angry, confused, frustrated, broken.
We need to find out how to tap into our latent power. Our latent awesomeness. The stuff that you know is there, it just can’t seem to find its way to the top.
We. Are. Not. Helpless.
Want to find your power? Want to strip off some of those protective layers and let your kickass self out?
Let’s do a power session. Let’s have you find your strength.
Set up a Reflective Tarot Coaching Session or a Power Email Reading, and walk in this world knowing yourself and knowing your strength!
(Cards in photo: Wildwood Tarot @http://willworthingtonart.co.uk)No Comments.
Here is a sample of what an email reading looks like. The italics are the answers and discoveries that come from the client. If you would like one of your own, please click here: Tarot Reading, and choose from the menu…
Who You Are:
The Five of Wands. There are 5 different people in this image. They are all holding wands in various, disorganized positions. They look as if they are in disagreement, fighting, out of accord.
What do you see for yourself? I am strife. I am fighting, disorganized, argumentative. I am scattered.
What has me being this way? Too much on my plate without enough direction. I have no plan of action, which leaves me all over the place and not moving forward. It is causing me stress that I really don’t want to carry around with me.
Who You Have the Potential to Be:
Three of pentacles. This image shows the use of tools, has people who make made notes, who have pre-planned so they can move forward together in action. There is beauty, symmetry and stability in the three pentacles shown up top.
What image of yourself shows up for you here? Makes me think of a cathedral, something of beauty. I can be the creator, the artist. I can be the person doing the work that gets results.
What would this look like? Accepting the input of others. Being open to suggestion. Being organized.
How Do You Get There:
Queen of Swords. Nice! This image shows a powerful woman, one hand open, one hand holding a sword of truth, steady and straight. She looks strong and committed. Her throne looks solid. She is above the clouds, above the mundane, in the clarity of the blue sky. A bird flies free above her.
How can you take this on to reach your potential? I can get to being the person who makes things happen by speaking my truth. By cutting through so much of the bullshit. This will take the work of my mature, royal self.
What step can you take to put this into action? I can take is to use my pen as that metaphorical sword and cut down my to-do list. I can use that metaphorical sword every time I catch myself feeling chaotic, and cut out what is non essential.
These cards show a progression from chaos to order, from being all over the place, to a solid foundation. The phrase ‘reining it in’ comes to mind. Brought in by the order and clear decisions of the queen. Rule your life as you would your kingdom, as your life IS your kingdom.
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I live in the high desert. It’s broad and expansive. Every direction I look, I see views going on forever. Mountains, valleys, giant sky. It is what I love about the desert. Every which way you look, is a new world. What would it be like if I climbed that mountain? What can I find in that riverbed? What if I were a raven and just flew and flew and flew? A new possibility, an new and different adventure in every direction. And I would get to fly high above it, gaze down at the options, and take my pick.
That’s what moves us forward. When we don’t have a vision of what is possible, how can we possibly move towards what we want?
Creating vision is a process. We play. We imagine. We look at what is possible and what is in our way.
Reflective Tarot Coaching is perfect for this process. You want to create a vision for yourself. Together we start getting clarity on what that is and how to get there. What blocks you and what actions are best for you to take.
Once we clarify what aspect you want to look at, I will design a tarot spread for you. Together we will investigate what you see in each card and how you can apply it to achieving your goal. We can find what empowers you and what holds you back.
I trust that you best know, deep down, how to get there. Together we simply bring that to the surface through a series of questions and the insights that show up from them.
They are all yours…
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What would it take for you to reach your goal? Determination? Work? Flow? Ease of intent?
Like the wren, our size doesn’t matter. When we know what we want and move towards it, we can choose to be impervious to the cold, to the snow, to the obstacles. It’s just part of the scenery. It would be a boring vista without it. But it doesn’t need to define us. It doesn’t need to hinder us.
One can still be a little bird, and have a big voice. Bigger than what gets in your way. Bigger than your fears. All that energy coming with the cooler air, the promise of fall, the coming snow, can empower us. The challenge can be excitement in the air.
You have the determination. You have the strength. You have the ability.
Working towards what you want need not require feats of amazing strength. The song of your voice is enough.
You just need to sing.
Then you will fly.
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(amazing tarot deck: Wildwood Tarot)No Comments.
It’s a new year! New growth. New opportunities. New possibilities.
I choose a card for the new year. Consciously. I wanted to be conscious in my choice as I want you to remember that whatever happens, whatever shows up in your world, you still have choice. You still have your own power in how you want to see, to be, in the world. And, by taking on choice, you create your world. You create the world.
We are that powerful. As long as we remember it.
And so I choose the Ten of Cups. Specifically from The Wild Unknown Deck.
It is simple. And in its simplicity it all comes together. Coming together is what this year is about. If we all gather together, if we all create change, both within ourselves and without, that is where the love is. That is where the joy is. That is where the happiness is.
That is where the strength truly resides.
This is what I wish for us to take on this year.
It is time for us to make it all come together.
I believe you know it all.
Well, I believe you have the ability to know it all. What is best for you, what you need, what you desire, what you want to bring to the world.
It is all in there, somewhere. Maybe on the surface. Maybe hidden.
When you shine your own light on your situation is when you will find what you need. That is the wonderful thing about tarot coaching. The cards come up as they do, but, really, that means nothing. What is important is what YOU see in them.
Look at the cards above. What stands out? What makes you excited? What makes you turn away? For each and every one of us, these will show up differently. Tarot uses the archetypes of our universal, human journey, but, while we are all on that path, it is going to be different for all of us. We are all special snowflakes and exactly the same at the very same time.
A tarot coach is just your guide. We are not here to tell you what to do. We are not here to give you advice. We are here to reflect your own journey back at you. We trust you to connect the dots and do the work. Even if it doesn’t seem like it, even if it is buried under layers and layers of ‘stuff’, you are the expert in your own life.
We are just here to help peel it back so you can move forward!No Comments.
When I was four. I killed my sister’s dog. She was tiny. I made her go down some stairs that she couldn’t manage. She fell and died.
I was four. I think. Somewhere around there. But that doesn’t matter. I killed a dog. It became who I was. The guilt, shame, loss, all became my identity. I have no memory of what my family did. I don’t remember how I reacted. All I knew is I was someone who killed a dog. And that person is bad. And so I was bad.
We all have moments in our childhood that define us. We may not even have a memory of them. And, logically, you think, ‘well, it just happened once, why is it so important?’
Yes, a defining event may have happened only once. But we forget that we add 10, 20, 30, 40 years of reinforcement to that event. It’s not direct. It’s not on purpose. It is not something we are even aware of. But it changes our point of view. The perspective that all other acts are seen from. The filter on our lens has names like: bad, selfish, undeserving, unworthy. And that becomes from where we act for the rest of our lives if we don’t catch it. If we don’t consciously change that perspective.
As a child, unless you have a fabulous other human next to you to help you process an event, you just don’t have the ability to do it for yourself. Therefore events stay unprocessed. They stay as a definition of our identity.
As adults we get to change that. That change can show up in many forms: therapy, meditation, a profound book, yes, tarot coaching , a conversation with a friend. (Landmark is fabulous for this, btw)
When I was younger, I found the idea of those memories defining us ridiculous. Only when I started to see how everything got changed, how everything was compounded by future action, did I start to get it. I got how I made an event mean something about me, then I carried that definition for 40 years. It’s that important. And letting go is even more important.
It’s work that has to be done. It is too difficult to live your life from the standpoint of undeserving, unworthy, etc. For joy and abundance to show up, truly, the best way to get there is change your lens filter, change your viewpoint, turn around and move forward from a place of deserving and worthiness.
(Yes, this is the second or third time I have written about this. It is that important for me to remember and stay present to…)
I fed a bee today.
It was on the ground, moving slowly. I remember reading about giving bees an emergency concoction of sugar and water, so they can nourish themselves.
We have no sugar, but we had grape jelly. I added some onto a spoon, placed it just under the bees mouth, and he reached over to eat. I held the spoon as gently as I could, trying not to move it. He kept on eating. Or was it drinking? I am not sure, but he kept at it.
After a few moments, I picked him and the spoon up and placed it outside in a shady area. The bee proceeded to groom himself and clean up after his lunch. Have you ever seen a bee groom? It’s like watching a tiny kitten. Darling.
Each bee needs to be honored. We must value each and every part of this planet. It can seem so very overwhelming, but each step, each choice, can take us in the right direction. Everything is precious. We need to take care of it.
The blessing is that when we take care of something as small as a tiny, tired bee, we are taking care of ourselves as well. We are helping the world. We are in the act of giving.
We often don’t do the right thing. We try. We want to. But desires, fear of scarcity, overwhelm, hurt, so many feelings, make it hard to make that choice. But every single time that we make that choice. To help, to better, to save, to contribute, we will feel better. Whenever you act from a place of fearless love, it counteracts the fear, it gives us strength, and it gives us hope.
Moving away from acting from fear to acting from love will always, always change how we feel.
And it will be for the better…No Comments.