Our Need for Order and Meaning

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I live on the road. Out in nature. From campground to campground. It is visually random. Audibly random. Yes, there is a rhythm here. But you have to listen for it. Therefore, I wonder, if we don’t see it, how deep is our need to place it all in a pattern?

I was out walking my dogs the other day as I passed a woman standing in an empty campsite. It looked to me as if she were picking up rocks. But I did not look closely.

Later that evening, as I was, yet again, walking the dogs, I saw police cars. Quite a few of them, on the other end of the campground. On the return round of the walk I discovered her story, sort of. This woman was lost in San Diego. A 3-4 hour drive away from where we are camped in the high desert.  They had been searching for her for 3 weeks. She had Alzheimer’s. How she got here was a mystery.

But here she was. Collecting rocks.

As I passed the spot the next day, I took a closer look. On the picnic table, she had organized rocks, twigs, raven feathers, and even a silver earring she had found. All in order. All classified by the thoughts and patterns in her head.

We are the pattern seekers of all the species. Humans look for order, patterns, meaning, in all things. I saw that in this older woman. She didn’t know where she was, she may not have known who she was, but here she was, making patterns, making order. I wonder what she got from it. Did she feel safer with order? Did she find meaning with the patterns and classification? Was it a comfort or a drive?

My guess is that it was both. We feel comfort with order. It helps define what things mean. Puts things into place and perspective. And that helps us to know who we are in relation to this world.

 

 

True Self, The Devil, and Shooting Yourself in the Foot

 

Why is it so hard? Why do we almost make things happen, but not quite get there. Why do we start things and not follow through? Why do we put things off until later/never? Why do we find excuses? Over and over again.

Showing up as your true self is amazing. It is powerful. It is healing. It is connected. It is real.

It is real scary.

We can fear our own power.  It is different. It is a new way of being. It feels odd. Maybe we feel too big. Maybe we feel we shouldn’t dare. Maybe we feel we don’t deserve it. Maybe, maybe, maybe.

So, to support these doubts. To stay with the status quo. To keep change from happening, to keep us from showing up, we conveniently shoot ourselves in the foot. We set up roadblocks and believe them to be beyond our control.

But it is not the truth. This is where the devil lives. Making us believe that it is out of our hands, that we are powerless to remove our chains.

The devil is hoping that we don’t notice that the chains that bind us are actually loose. They are just hanging there. For us to remove at any moment. But we believe the story. We believe that these roadblocks are created from outside of us, therefore we stay chained.

And when we shoot ourselves in the foot, yes, it is our own doing, our own action. But we still blame it on something that can’t be helped: we are stupid, we are lazy, we are forgetful…

As if that is fact. Just the way it is. The devil lies. And we believe.

To remove the chains, to be set free from what pulls us down, we don’t need to ‘do’ anything. We don’t need to try to break the links with our own bare hands. We don’t need to fight. We don’t need to struggle to squirm out of them.

We just need to stop believing in them…