Reflective Tarot Coaching, it’s About What YOU See…



I believe you know it all.

Well, I believe you have the ability to know it all. What is best for you, what you need, what you desire, what you want to bring to the world.

It is all in there, somewhere. Maybe on the surface. Maybe hidden.

When you shine your own light on your situation is when you will find what you need.  That is the wonderful thing about tarot coaching. The cards come up as they do, but, really, that means nothing. What is important is what YOU see in them.

Look at the cards above. What stands out? What makes you excited? What makes you turn away? For each and every one of us, these will show up differently. Tarot uses the archetypes of our universal, human journey, but, while we are all on that path, it is going to be different for all of us. We are all special snowflakes and exactly the same at the very same time.

A tarot coach is just your guide. We are not here to tell you what to do. We are not here to give you advice. We are here to reflect your own journey back at you. We trust you to connect the dots and do the work. Even if it doesn’t seem like it, even if it is buried under layers and layers of ‘stuff’, you are the expert in your own life.

We are just here to help peel it back so you can move forward!

Who Cares What Happened When You Were Four?



When I was four. I killed my sister’s dog. She was tiny. I made her go down some stairs that she couldn’t manage. She fell and died.

I was four. I think. Somewhere around there. But that doesn’t matter. I killed a dog. It became who I was. The guilt, shame, loss, all became my identity. I have no memory of what my family did. I don’t remember how I reacted. All I knew is I was someone who killed a dog. And that person is bad. And so I was bad.

We all have moments in our childhood that define us. We may not even have a memory of them. And, logically, you think, ‘well, it just happened once, why is it so important?’

Yes, a defining event may have happened only once. But we forget that we add 10, 20, 30, 40 years of reinforcement to that event. It’s not direct. It’s not on purpose. It is not something we are even aware of. But it changes our point of view. The perspective that all other acts are seen from. The filter on our lens has names like: bad, selfish, undeserving, unworthy. And that becomes from where we act for the rest of our lives if we don’t catch it. If we don’t consciously change that perspective.

As a child, unless you have a fabulous other human next to you to help you process an event, you just don’t have the ability to do it for yourself. Therefore events stay unprocessed. They stay as a definition of our identity.

As adults we get to change that. That change can show up in many forms: therapy, meditation, a profound book, yes, tarot coaching 🙂 , a conversation with a friend. (Landmark is fabulous for this, btw)

When I was younger, I found the idea of those memories defining us ridiculous. Only when I started to see how everything got changed, how everything was compounded by future action, did I start to get it. I got how I made an event mean something about me, then I carried that definition for 40 years. It’s that important. And letting go is even more important.

It’s work that has to be done. It is too difficult to live your life from the standpoint of undeserving, unworthy, etc. For joy and abundance to show up, truly, the best way to get there is change your lens filter, change your viewpoint, turn around and move forward from a place of deserving and worthiness.


(Yes, this is the second or third time I have written about this. It is that important for me to remember and stay present to…)


If You’ve Never Fed a Bee…

I fed a bee today.

It was on the ground, moving slowly. I remember reading about giving bees an emergency concoction of sugar and water, so they can nourish themselves.

We have no sugar, but we had grape jelly. I added some onto a spoon, placed it just under the bees mouth, and he reached over to eat. I held the spoon as gently as I could, trying not to move it. He kept on eating. Or was it drinking? I am not sure, but he kept at it.

After a few moments, I picked him and the spoon up and placed it outside in a shady area. The bee proceeded to groom himself and clean up after his lunch. Have you ever seen a bee groom? It’s like watching a tiny kitten. Darling.

Each bee needs to be honored. We must value each and every part of this planet. It can seem so very overwhelming, but each step, each choice, can take us in the right direction. Everything is precious. We need to take care of it.

The blessing is that when we take care of something as small as a tiny, tired bee, we are taking care of ourselves as well. We are helping the world. We are in the act of giving.

We often don’t do the right thing. We try. We want to. But desires, fear of scarcity, overwhelm, hurt, so many feelings, make it hard to make that choice. But every single time that we make that choice. To help, to better, to save, to contribute, we will feel better. Whenever you act from a place of fearless love, it counteracts the fear, it gives us strength, and it gives us hope.

Moving away from acting from fear to acting from love will always, always change how we feel.

And it will be for the better…

Quiet Balance






Rest makes whole.

We cannot move forward if we are not whole.

And yet, we try.

Every day.

Over and over again.

Push, force, coerce. Just a little bit more energy. Just a little bit more effort. Caffeine, sugar. Have to. Need to.

That works.

For a while.

Until you break.

Rest. Recover. Sleep. Be.

These all have a purpose. To make us whole again. Yet we don’t seem to believe it or allow it. Or trust it. Science backs it up. All of nature backs it up. So what is our problem?




Your days will fill with health. Energy.

Things will happen. Your will be more productive. You will get more done. Easily, unforced, without coercion.

And you will win the battle.


Imagery, The Tarot, and Reflective Readings



Images. They all tap in to our psyche. They all show up for us in different ways.

Images are symbols. We can just say, ‘oh, this symbol means…’, but when we actually look at an image, there is a different pathway being activated, and that resonates personally, and quite individually. Think of being told about a painting and studying just the facts surrounding it, or getting to actually sit and be present with a painting. the deconstruction into meaning will not compare to the actual experience.

Symbols abound in tarot. It can be argued that it is all symbol. But personal reactions to visual stimuli can be different. For example, we can talk all day long about the symbology, history, social implications of the color red, but to actually, visually, experience the color is a whole different thing. The experience may not align with certain elements of known symbology, etc. It may make one person cry, it may make another angry.

This is where tarot is most powerful. When it speaks to to each individual’s personal experience, and does not just live as a symbol alone. When image is connected to viewer is when the magic happens.

With Reflective Tarot Coaching, it is all about what the client sees. There is a trust that they will see exactly what they need to. And, really, you are the expert in and of your own life. As a reader, I do not get in the way of that with my own advice, because there is really no need to. Yes, meanings, archetypes, symbols all come into play, but the biggest, most important, most powerful element, is what YOU see.

Celebration IS the Point.



Just celebrate already! It’s life. It’s beautiful. It’ is rich and deep and profound and moving. It is dark and light. We can dwell in the dark, sure. But if we are not celebrating the light, well. what is the point?

Have the Three of Cups show up for you every day. Dance. Sing. Hug friends. Take a bath. I don’t know how it shows up for you, this celebration. I don’t know what is going to bring you the most joy. It is your choice. It is yours to decide from everything out there.

There is no meaning to life if we don’t honor it, play with it, love it. All the cliches apply: Life is a gift, you only live once, you don’t know what tomorrow will bring, so live fully today. The list goes wonderfully on and on. That’s because there is so much truth there.

We often wait for the opportune moment to celebrate. But according to who? I remember being in a seminar with a few hundred wonderful people. We were all standing up, taking turns stating what we wanted to take on in life. People were mentioning writing books, getting a better job, finding a deeper relationship with their partner, etc. All wonderful, fabulous intentions. Then this one guy:

He stood up and stated that he wanted to take on having the most fun possible. He just wanted to party and do fun things and live in joy every day.

It was pretty awesome. It was years ago. And he is the only one whose specific intention I remember. Although I do remember the whole room supporting him in this amazing choice in life. That was who he was. And it made us all happier knowing that there is this one guy out there that is just going to have some damn fun.

I hope he is partying today…


(And, yes, that is me a few years ago. It feels a bit awkward to add in my own picture, but you know what? There is nothing celebratory about feeling awkward, so I am doing it anyway… 🙂 )

Releasing Yourself From Bondage. Eight of Swords.



There is no greater bondage than what we create for ourselves. We make choices that blind us, that bind us. We go through life not thinking, not looking. Then, all of a sudden, we are restricted and wonder how we ever got that way. Who put these blinders on? Who set up these dangerous swords around us?

Slowly, subtly. We allow ourselves to be bound without awareness. We don’t notice it, we are not present to it. That is understandable. As these restrictions creep up on us, they can be hidden, they can be so out in the open that it is almost too obvious.

Our arms are ties, our eyes are shut, we are so worried about any misstep that we don’t make the attempt to step forward at all. This can come from trying to ‘be’ a certain way, trying to please others, trying to be how we ‘should’ be. It is a long list. And the list becomes more important than our freedom. So we stay bound.

But how is that any way to live? How is that going to bring your own personal awesomeness to the world? How is it going to change the world? It’s not.

How do you rip off that blindfold? Well, that blindfold can be seen as a positive. What if you did not have to look at all those swords of ‘shoulds’? You could look in, you could connect with self. You can find your center. And from your center, from who you truly are, you can move forward in your own strength.

Hella lot better than trying to please everyone else.

Ticket to Ride the Chariot. Facebook Version



Energy. It goes up and down. There is positive and negative. Each input of this energy takes us to a different place. Happy, sad. Angry, fighty, supportive, loving. This movement forward shows up like crazy on Facebook.

We read about amazing animal rescues. We read about amazing animal torture. Someone posts about something awful a cop did to a black man, someone posts about something heroic a stranger did for a cop. It can take our energy and swirl it into something that combines all the best in the world with all the worst.

Where does that leave you? I think it leaves you far from the control of your own destiny, your own viewpoint of the world. We absorb all this stuff. Crap, really. It inspires us to move forward, in a way, but not powerfully. It pulls us in different directions, as it all is important and it all needs to be addressed right now(!), which is kind of true, but kind of impossible at the same time.

When we look at the chariot, there is a black sphynx and a white sphynx. Almost as one is looking at the world and what needs to be done from the glass half empty, and the other is looking at it from the glass being half full. Both are valid. Both are pushing us forward, but each is going to resonate differently. Some will be inspired to change the world from seeing what is wrong that needs to be righted. Some will be inspired to change the world from seeing what is right and figuring out how to keep that growing.

And, yes, we get both on Facebook. And, really, it can get hard. I don’t think it is common to be able to ride both sides of the line. And that can be really disjointing and crazymaking on Facebook. But like all things, we have choice in the matter of what is going to propel us forward.

All you have to decide is which direction is yours.

And leave the rest.



Just Do. Don’t perfect.


Type. Just type.

Write. Just write.

Something will show up.

Something will open.

Even if it is just the courage to push through.

Keep going.

Erase the blocks.

Can’t erase them.

Maybe just override?

Sometimes there is no flow. Sometimes there is only stuckness. Can’t move forward. Can’t get anything done.

But is this really true? Is ‘can’t’ a fact here? Or maybe it is just allowing the imperfect to show up. What would happen if the ‘perfect’ did not run you? I bet you could move. I bet you could get things done. Don’t worry about the grade, just start to type the paper.

And keep typing.

Maybe nothing brilliant will happen. Maybe all you can get out of it is knowing that you did it. Maybe we should allow ourselves to appreciate and be content and be human with that knowledge.

At the very least, it will make for a better night of sleep.

And that’s a good thing…

Order Out of Balance



This is my second set of thoughts about needing to make order out of chaos. When I wrote about the Alzheimer’s woman yesterday, finding safety in putting rocks and twigs and stones in order, I got it, I was with her. But something kept showing up for me. As I looked at the light, the shadow was tapping at my shoulder. And I saw what was most needed.


Taking the need to make order out of nature and our surroundings to the extreme can through us out of balance. In fact, it is what throws the earth out of balance. The need to take nature and align it completely to patterns, straight lines, proper places is what is bringing about the destruction of the place we live in.

When we try to control too much, when we try to have knowledge and dominion over all things is when life is out of balance, when the shadow rises up to try to take all.

The two cards that strongly show up in this idea are The Hierophant and Temperance.

The Hierophant, with his structure and order, when taken too far, becomes control and  ultimate authority. This goes far beyond gathering rocks and meditatively placing them. This goes to tearing off tops of mountains and discarding that which does not fit under ones control. Taking it too far is having order to precedence over all else. Cold. Harsh. Without pity. The machine element comes out. The human element disappears.

Yet there is Temperance.


Allowing both things to be at once. Taking only what you need. Build a pile with your rocks but don’t take the whole mountain. Know when to stop. Be aware what is balance is what will create enough for all. This is done with thoughtfulness and mindfulness in all things. Every moment is a moment to ask if you are out of balance. Every moment is a moment to make that choice.

So, that is what showed up for me from my post yesterday.