Someone I know and dearly love gave me a wakeup call once, years ago.
She was in her late 50’s, smart, educated, strong, admirable. I always looked up to her (I still do). But she once said something that changed my life forever.
It was a small part of a random conversation. Just a tiny bit of shared information. But it winded up informing my decisions from there on out.
“I’m still feeling like I am waiting for my life to begin.”
To hear that from a woman whom I thought had it all together in terms of what she had done with her life, slew me, shocked me, awakened me.
Do we want to keep waiting, or do we want our life? Now? Now is all we have and we waste it so easily. By worrying about the future. By feeling guilty about the past. By just not accepting the here and now.
When I coach clients, I hear so much of this. “If only”, “If I hadn’t”, “If xyz were different”…
But we are here and now. It is what we have got to work with, and its a pretty damn amazing thing to work with, really! When we get coached, it allows us to connect with the fullness of now. It allows us to get our perspective back, have choice in the matter, get enough clarity that we can see the ‘now’ and choose how we want to show up in it.
The things that stop us, cost us. They cost us this very moment.